When to add a strap on dildo to your toy collection

Although Americans are becoming increasingly open about their sexual desires and toys used behind closed doors, there are still some toys that hold a lot of mystique. These toys are discussed primarily in whispers, to this day. One such toy housewives and many men have yet to discuss without nervousness during the coffee klatch is the strap on dildo.

Most people believe that strap on dildo play is only meant for sexual intercourse between two women. This could not be farther from the reality of the strap on dildo experience and all of the intimate potential this hushed superstar of the bedroom holds. Fortunately for many couples, a brave moment of strap on dildo play has led to a whole new world of more open sexual exploration, even if they still refuse to talk about it over coffee, cream and sugar.

What Happens in the Bedroom Stays in the Bedroom

The good news for anyone afraid of what the Joneses may think is that what happens in your bedroom is securely held as a secret within your bedroom. Besides, walls can’t talk and if they could, maybe they would not discuss strap on dildos over coffee, either. The bedroom is your intimate safety zone, where you can explore your wildest fantasies with the person or people you care most about.

What is a strap on dildo?

A strap on is a sex toy ensemble that features a harness worn much like underwear, around the waist or hips. A specially designed dildo fits inside of this harness and provides women with an eight-inch phallus that looks and feels much like the real thing. Alternatively, a man can wear a strap on and have his ultimate dream of two penises at once. Just imagine the possibilities for play, particularly since a strap on can be an always-ready pinch-hitter when the real thing needs a bit of a rest.

How are strap ons a turn-on?

Strap on sex provides an expansion of intimacy and, shall we say, deeper connection than handheld dildo play provides. Here are ways that strap ons can add fun and a unique experience to the bedroom:

• Strap ons allow for hands-free penetration so more personal touch can be enjoyed by both partners than holding a dildo allows
• Strap ons can be used by both men and women on either gender
• Women can enjoy thrusting their hips as men typically do during intercourse
• Men with trouble sustaining an erection or those who wish to continue play beyond their own orgasm can enjoy the enhancement of having an always-ready erect penis
• Double penetration can be enjoyed between a man and woman
• The visual experience of a strap on is stimulating to some people
• Using a strap on expands the sexual repertoire to include more options for fun and excitement

What are the myths of strap on dildo play?

There are two primary misconceptions about strap on dildos. The first is that men who enjoy receiving a strap on as part of are homosexual. This is not true, at all. Many heterosexual men enjoy anal stimulation, where the prostate provides sensitivity somewhat similar to a woman’s g-spot.

Another myth of strap on play is that women who use one want to be men or are jealous that they do not have their own penis. This is also not true. In fact, women were first said to want to be men if they wore pants instead of skirts. Wearing a strap on is simply a way women can experience what being able to have intercourse feels like from a “top” position, instead of only receiving.